Energy Vampires

Why do we allow peolpe who are energy or emotional vampires into our lives? And why does it hurt so much when you decide to get rid of one?

These are two questions I'm asking myself right now, since I'm the one who let one of these people into my life...again, and I'm the one who's decided that I've had enough of this enregy/emotional drain that this person has put on my life, but it hurts a lot to let them go.

There has been an ongoing issue with this person in my life and I've dealt with it and let it happen, but I've hit the wall and said this is the last straw, I can't continue to allow thisperson to sap my energy and my emotions. They are just too needy for my tastes, and so I'm going to be the one doing the letting go. I simply cannot handle this anymore. I hate this part, since I'm not good at ending relationships. All you have to do to look for evidence of that is look at my last marriage, which should have been over years ago, but I refused to allow it to die and go away, because I was afraid of being alone, afraid I couldn't handle raising the kids by myself, afraid of everything. Well I finally reached the point where I got out of that relationship, and I'm the one who made the decision, it wasn't easy, but it needed to happen. I've been feeling much stronger and better about myself and I've been facing my fears and proven to myself that I can do it!

So I have a friend who's more energy/emotionally needy than my XH was, and I've allowed this person into my life, not realizing what they were like. Now that I'm seeing it clearly, I'm ready to make the break, but I don't want to deal with the pain of the end of the relationship. I'm definitely not ready to admit that I got involved with someone like this...again, but I promised you all complete honesty and so here it is. I have yet to tellthis person that I'm done, because I'm really not ready to do it, but I will do it this weekend, because I have to in order to move on with my life! I was honestly hoping that things would be able to be worked out over the summer when I didn't have the kids with me. However, I can't handle that much longer to try to get to the point of blissful adult only time.

I talked to my vampire last night and we talked for about 4+ hours, I'm still very tired from this discussion. When we talked this morning, nothing had changed and I don't think things are going to work out at this point to a mutually agreeable solution. I'm feeling that I'm putting all the effort into the relationship and the vampire is simply sucking up whatever there is. I'm sad, but I don't have the energy to spare at this point in time. If that's the way it has to be, I'll be sad, but I will survive. I am strong. Thus life goes on, and as soon as I know what my vampire wants to do, I'll post an update